Can Happiness Be Measured?

Today I decided to talk about something that interests me quite a lot, and that’s happiness. It’s a really interesting emotion to explore and evaluate, so please indulge me for today while I have a bit of a delve into whether or not we can measure it!

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When it comes to 2 millions years, we all consider that an incredibly long time, but in fact, when it comes to Evolution, 2 million years really is no time at all. In 2 million years, the human brain has nearly tripled in size, from the 1 ¼lb brain of our ancestors, Homo Habilis, to the nearly 3lb brain that we all posses today.

With this growth of our brains, the structure of our brains altered too, leading to the development of what is now referred to as the ‘prefrontal cortex’. The ‘prefrontal cortex’ is the area of the brain that determines decision making and holds our ability to essentially, ‘experience things, without experiencing them’. As Dan Gilbert explains in his talk with TED, “The Surprising Science Of Happiness”, an example of this function can be explained through why Ben and Jerry’s don’t have liver-and-onion ice cream. “It’s not because they whipped some up, tried it and went, ‘Yuck.’ It’s because, without leaving your armchair, you can simulate that flavour and say ‘yuck’ before you make it.” The prefrontal cortex goes through most major changes during the ‘teen’ and pubescent years, which heavily contributes towards why teenagers tend to make impulsive and irrational decisions.

Naturally, with this development in the brain, we also developed problems with it. As we have grown and developed, we’ve discovered something known as ‘Impact bias’. This is the tendency for this ‘experience’ simulator, to work badly. Over time, we have internalised the idea that many situations that contain 2 differing outcomes, have a typically ‘good’ outcome, and a typically ‘bad’ or ‘undesirable’ outcome. From covert field studies, to overt lab studies, we have found that examples such as winning or losing an election, gaining or losing a romantic partner, passing or not passing a test, etc, have far less impact, less intensity, and a much shorter duration than we expect them to have on our happiness and lives. A further example of this is when people were questioned whether or not they’d be happier with winning the lottery, or becoming a paraplegic.

Naturally of course, all people that were asked, answered that they’d rather win the lottery. This is because we naturally assume that we’d be far happier with that outcome. But the truth is, that a year after experiencing one of these life changing events, either winning the lottery, or becoming a paraplegic, both groups of people rated their levels of happiness as exactly the same. This is the ‘impact bias’ in full swing.

A recent study carried out by Kubler-Ross led to the ‘Kubler-Ross Change Curve’. This chart demonstrates how major life traumas effect people, and it suggests that if the event occurred more than 3 months ago, with a few exceptions, it had no impact on an individuals day-to-day happiness.

So how are we going through such life changing events, but merely 3 months later, almost completely unaffected by it? We are able to do so, because happiness can be synthesized. Sir Thomas Brown wrote in 1642, “I am the happiest man alive. I have that in me that can convert poverty to riches, adversity to prosperity. I am more invulnerable than Achilles; fortune hath not one place to hit me.”  Human beings have something that we refer to as a ‘psychological immune system’, a system of cognitive processes, largely non-conscious cognitive processes, that help us change our views of the world, so that we can feel better about the world in which we find ourselves; and, like Sir Thomas, we all have this machine.

Before getting into this machine, and how we synthesise happiness, we must first understand the difference between ‘synthetic’ and ‘natural’ happiness. Natural happiness is what we feel when we get what we wanted, and synthetic happiness is what we make when we don’t get what we wanted. However, in our society, we seem to have a strong belief that synthetic happiness is of an inferior kind.

We synthesise happiness, yet we still believe happiness is a thing to be found, or a destination to be ‘reached’. Examples of people showing signs of ‘synthesising’ happiness typically occur when people seem to be ‘stuck’ or ‘trapped’ in situations. An example of this could be a woman that embarks on a date with a man who hasn’t shaved, and picks his nose, is unlikely to see the man again, but take the exact same situation, but the couple are married, and the woman deems the man ‘loveable’ and focusses on his better aspects and traits. This is because the woman is synthesising happiness by making the best of her situation and options.

A further example of a person synthesising happiness is that of Moreese Bickham. Bickham was jailed for 37 years in a Louisiana State Penitentiary for a crime he didn’t commit. But was  released for good behaviour halfway through his sentence. However, after his release, Bickham was quoted as saying, “I don’t have one minute’s regret. It was a glorious experience.” This is a prime example of synthesising happiness. Bickham has looked back on his experiences, and actively chosen to take the good from it. Ultimately using the word ‘glorious’, which is commonly a word we reserve for something greater than ourselves, such as a religious experience.

So how does all of this relate to happiness and whether or not it can be measured? As Dr Dan Siegel was quoted, “Well-being, of course, is a very subjective and individual experience.” Some argue that happiness cannot possibly be measured, at least not objectively because none of the obvious behaviours can be linked to happiness in a reliable manner. Even an outgoing and friendly appearance, which is so frequently observed among happy people, can be put on as a mask by those who are unhappy. Furthermore, as Michael Blastland said, “Your well-being may not be improved by the same things as mine, the fact that you like to get stoned isn’t going to see cannabis in Tesco.” Objectivity is not being influenced by personal feelings or opinions in representing facts; but that’s exactly what happiness is, and how it is effected.

Ultimately, it can be argued that happiness can indeed be measured, because it’s already happening, right now. Since 2010, The ONS have, as a result of governmental request, been including happiness and well-being questions in their surveys, meaning that we have self-assessed data from the past 5 years detailing our happiness and well-being levels. In the year 2014/5, we as a nation rated our ‘Life Satisfaction’ as 28.8%, up 2% from the year 2013/4. Since we have this data, therefore, surely it must be possible to measure happiness, right?

You might ask yourself, “Why does it even matter? Happiness is surely an individual and unique experience to everyone.” And well, you’d be right. As soon as the reasoning behind why the government wanted The ONS to collect information on our ‘happiness’ and ‘well-being’ levels was investigated, their motives are obviously deeper than just wanting a happier nation. Our government, naturally, want to improve our country’s GDP (Gross Domestic Product) which is the monetary value of all the finished goods and services produced within a country’s borders in a specific time period. And it was believed that by monitoring and attempting to improve our GNH (Gross National Happiness), our GDP would increase as a consequence of that.

A further reason as to why we need to be measuring happiness is to ensure we understand ourselves on a deeper level. An example of this could be that happy people are simply more likely to want to get married, and therefore we have the cause and effect the wrong way around. Whereas we falsely attribute happiness to people that are married.

Ultimately, we can all agree that yes, happiness can be measured. This is because I can ask any one of you, on a daily basis, to rate your happiness, and you’d be quite capable of doing so. However, we are only able to rate and measure our own happiness, because we exclusively have access to our, and only our own, unique data, and we can draw conclusions from that. But because we don’t have many control variables, we can’t necessarily compare our data, so the conclusions can only exist as unique and independent data.


This post really does run the risk of being a tldr, so if you made it this far, I’d like to really thank you for taking the time to read this post in its entirety, it means a great deal to me, and this is a topic that I really enjoy writing about.

I thought it’d be fun to cover a much more in-depth and deeper topic, because I very rarely delve into topics that deeply interest me, I feel like I’d stagnated into just pushing out content about generic and predictable things, and doing different things like this is something I’d like to start doing more.

Do you believe that happiness can be measured and compared? Let me know in the comments!

 

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Valentine’s Day: Lush “Lot’s Of Love” Gift Set

It’s Valentine’s Day in 4 days now, so today I’m showing you guys one of the best Valentine’s Day ultimate hacks; A Lush gift set! It’s perfect if your other half is obsessed with Lush, and it’s perfect if you really don’t know what to get them!IMG_1038In the “Lot’s Of Love” gift set, you get 6 of some of the cutest love-themed products that Lush have to offer, and I’m going to talk you through them all, alongside one bonus product!IMG_1053

Tisty Tosty | This bath bomb is based on a medieval love potion. It contains seven real rosebuds and has a gorgeous scent of geranium, jasmine and rose, said to be toning and balancing, and floral and seductive. It also makes for a really pretty and relaxing bath.

Oral Pleasure | Now this product is not included in the “Lot’s Of Love” gift set, but fortunately this was gifted to me, and I had never heard of it before so I thought I’d share it with you guys! In this pot you have ‘toothy tabs’, which can be used as a toothpaste substitute. I know it seems confusing, but when used properly it is like their shampoo bars, that foams up incredibly. All you have to do is chew this tablet and then start brushing your teeth! It creates a white foam, so don’t let the colour (or name!) put you off!IMG_1055Rose Jam | One of my favourite products from Lush, a bubbleroon! This products smells so relaxing, and the fact that it also contains rose oil means that it’s balancing, softening and moisturising for the skin. I also really love that it can be used more than once as you can break it in half. That’s twice the amount of relaxation, in one product!

A French Kiss | I had always been drawn to this bubble bar every time I’ve been in Lush, but I’ve never actually picked it up, so I was so excited when I saw that it was included in this gift set! It smells so lovely, and I really love the way Lush describes it, “Crumble under running water for a paradisaical bath full of the lavender and rosemary scents of Southern France.” Definitely one of the most romantic products, perfect for this time of year!IMG_1058Lover Lamp | Do you want a romantic bath that smells like chocolate orange, moisturises your skin with the most delicate cocoa butter, and leaves tiny red hearts floating a top a billion bubbles? Look no further; this is the bath bomb for you. It’s perfect for a girly night in, or first thing in the morning to keep your skin super soft and smelling gorgeous all day long.

Unicorn Horn | I don’t really need to go in to much detail with this product do I? We’ve all seen it, heard of it or tried it. This bath bomb has been proven to increase serotonin levels (they make you feel happy and cheery!), and it’s just super cute. And if Lush opens their description for this product with “Unicorns are probably real. But, even if they’re not (don’t worry they definitely are) you won’t mind!” you know this bubble bar is a must buy.

Sex Bomb | This bath bomb is geared towards soothing your worries, and relieving anxiety. It’s main ingredient is Jasmine, which obviously is super relaxing, but it also said to be an ancient aphrodisiac, so again, it’s perfect for Valentine’s Day!


That’s it for the “Lot’s Of Love” gift set from Lush, perfect for if you still haven’t quite figured out what you want to give to that special someone this Sunday!

Please share this post if you enjoyed it, and help out your friends who might not know what to get for Valentine’s yet!

Check out my last Lush haul HERE

What is your favourite love-themed product from Lush?

How To Proof Read Your Own Work

As I know that most of you guys reading are fellow bloggers, today I thought I’d write another post with writing/blogging in mind!

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Jack Bun-Bun is here to give you all of his editing advice

We’ve all found ourselves looking back on a post, (usually just after having pressed ‘publish’…) just to be confronted with annoying typos and missing/extra words that we swear weren’t there after our final scan through the post. Or even worse, having someone point out a really obvious mistake that you hadn’t noticed at all. It’s much easier to proof read someone else’s work than it is to check through your own, so today I’m sharing some tips that I’ve found and collected for how to proof read your own work!

Dissociate | The most important thing to do in order to be objective when re-reading and critiquing your own writing is to separate yourself from the fact that you know how the piece is supposed to read; which means we tend to not pick up on the little details. A quick way to go about this is by reading the piece backwards. It really can be as easy as starting with the last sentence and reading backwards, as that way our brains pick up on anything that doesn’t make complete sense.

Bring Your Words To Life | Again, doing something different with your work, that can be as simple and obvious as reading your work out loud, or printing it out, instead of just writing and rewriting, means that our mistakes are much more obvious.

Plan | I really should take my own advice on this one, but sometimes proof reading your own work can be a lot easier if you’re not proof reading on the same day. So planning and drafting posts ahead of time gives you a lot more opportunities to redraft and find errors.

Avoid Scanning | When we are faced with a mass of text, we very often tend to scan the piece as a whole, instead of actually taking the time to read the sentences as we would if someone else wrote them.


Those are the best tips I’ve found, let me know in the comments if you can think of any tips that work for you that I might have missed. I hope that these tips can help some of you out! I am by no means a professional; in fact, I have some very lovely editor/proof reader pals who usually find my errors and let me know about them, but hopefully these tips can help us all out!

25 Blog Post Ideas For New Bloggers

Hey guys! For today’s post, I thought I’d take us all back in time; to when we very started out in this blogging world. I know for me, when I finally bit the bullet and created my blog, I was in such a rush to get my very first post up, and get going in the blogging world, that I burnt out after that one. I just didn’t have the ideas to back up my motivation, so I ended up having a month-old blog, with one post.25 Blog Post Ideas For New Bloggers

So today I’m sharing with you guys 25 blog prompts for those of you who are brand new to the blogging world.

  1. An introductory/”About Me” post
  2. 10 things no one knows about you
  3. Why did you start a blog?
  4. A round-up of “daily life”-type photos
  5. Where do you see yourself (and your blog) this time next year?
  6. Share some guilty pleasures
  7. What are your favourite blogs to check out every day?
  8. Share an embarrassing or silly story
  9. Let us see what’s in your bag
  10. Share some of your favourites – movies, music, TV, books, etc.
  11. What’s been inspiring you lately?
  12. Talk about a hobby or something you’re passionate about
  13. What are some goals you’d like to achieve this season?
  14. Share your bucket list
  15. What’s a day in your life like?
  16. Create a weekly feature or series
  17. Interview another blogger or friend
  18. Create a “Top 10” or “5 Tips” post
  19. Feature someone who inspires you every day
  20. Review something specific to your niche
  21. Share your to-do list for the day/week/weekend
  22. Swap guest posts with another blogger
  23. Share the pros and cons of something you have experience with
  24. Create a list of blogs you think are worth following
  25. Write a letter to your future self that you can come back and read on your blog’s 1 year anniversary

That’s it! I hope this post gave some of you budding bloggers some inspiration! (I know I could’ve done with bookmarking a post like this back when I started out!) So if you are starting up a blog now, what do you think you are going to share on your blog? Or if you’ve been blogging for a while, what was your first post?

Can’t Sleep Colouring

We’ve all been there. It’s the middle of the night, but your mind shows absolutely no signs of slowing down and settling to sleep. Trying to tackle it by watching tv, or reading can often be useless because those things only wake your mind up more by getting your imagination running.The Can't Sleep Colouring Book So when I found this book, I had to try it out for its original purpose. (I say original purpose because adult colouring books like these are designed with a plethora of uses in mind. Many of which prove very helpful for many different things.) The Can't Sleep Colouring BookThe Can't Sleep Colouring BookDoing an activity like those that are featured in this book really do help you to shut off your mind and relax, as you are focussing on a single thing, and your mind doesn’t usually wander. This means that your body alerts your brain as to how tired you are, making sleep a much more achievable outcome. Furthermore, the actual illustrations of this book are all designed with serenity and peacefulness in mind. These illustrations are created to affect you subconsciously and induce feelings of relaxation; all lovely things for drifting off to sleep!The Can't Sleep Colouring BookThe Can't Sleep Colouring BookHowever, this very outcome is also incredibly helpful for when it comes to anxiety. If you suffer with anxiety, doing something mindless like this can prove very effective in calming your mind if you feel an attack coming on, or if you feel as though you are in a situation where you might feel anxious.The Can't Sleep Colouring BookI myself have found that this book is perfectly fit for its purpose, and it assists in many other ways, but it’s also just a nice way to pass any free time you might have.


Let me know if you’ve got a similar book, or if you’re contemplating purchasing one now in the comments!

To Bucket List, Or Not To Bucket List?

Bucket lists. We’ve all heard of them, and plenty of us have one either written or saved somewhere. But here’s something you don’t usually hear, I don’t have one.

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The main reason I don’t have an actual written-out list is simply because I’ve never really set aside the time to really decide what things I’d really like to have done before I die.

However I do personally feel that I’m more of a living in the moment type of person, meaning I don’t like to have my life entirely planned out. Now I do also understand that a bucket list isn’t a life plan, but I feel that when it does come around to it, I’d rather nostalgically look back on everything I have done, as opposed to being faced by lost opportunities and things I really wanted to do, but never got around to doing.

We don’t like to entertain the thought, but anything could happen to any one of us at any given time, so I think it’s best to do what you love right now, and if there is something you’d really like to do, do it now, book it now!bucket list blog post

Overall I think it’s a great thing to have aspirations and things you’d like to do the future, even if you can’t achieve them right now, but having a written out list can be intimidating and leave you feeling regret about the things that you didn’t make time to do.

One of the most important things,I think, to internalise, is to not deny yourself of the things that you want to do. Work hard, but don’t overwork yourself, no one has ever gotten to the end of their life and wished that they had worked more. They’ll wish they loved stronger, lived more, and forgave quicker.

We’re all in this together, so make friends, celebrate each other, wish the best for people, and they will do the same for you.


This post sure got philosophical real fast! I hope you guys enjoyed it, let me know if you’ve got a bucket list, and what thing you’ve crossed off so far that you’re the proudest of!

5 Free Printables & Facebook Page Announcement

Every now and then we can all do with a personal mantra, or just some words to settle and reassure us. So today I created 5 printables with some quotes that I love, all for different situations.


quote3 I adore this quote because it’s to the point, punchy and sassy. Any time I’m feeling a little bit down, or if someone in particular is getting you down, either because of the present or the past, I love being reminded that how we feel is up to us. Your self-perception and confidence is all determined and can only be changed by you. And as I like wearing makeup, (even if my drink of choice is Fanta…) this one feels great for me.


quote2 This quote entirely speaks for itself. Never do anything that you don’t absolutely love. You can always stop. Speak up and stay true to yourself and your preferences.Don’t waste a second of your life half-invested in something.


quote1 Again, this quote has no grey area. Personally I have never been very good at dealing with change. But as soon as I internalised this saying and stopped questioning the why of everything, life becomes so much easier. As humans, we are all constantly searching for the why in every event, but if we simply accept that everything happens for a reason, but some of these reasons may not be immediately evident, it doesn’t matter. Just embrace it and move on.


quote5 I love this quote because it reminds me that none of us are in this alone. Yes, there will always be people who appear worse off than you, and there will always be people who seem better off. But the reality is, you never truly know what another person is going through, because we cannot experience life from their eyes and with their thoughts. So therefore the best thing to do is to just be kind.


quote4And finally I love this quote because it doesn’t delve too deeply into life or emotions, it’s just a great little mantra to have whenever you’re shopping or getting dressed. All too often to place importance on what other people think and what other people are doing, and in the meantime we lose who we are and what we like. So this is just a more fun, confidence based quote to keep in mind if you’re having a down day, or questioning what to wear based on what others are wearing, or what they might say.


And that’s it! Those are just a select few of some of my favourite quotes that I like to keep in mind on a regular basis. Do you have a personal mantra? I’d love to hear it, so let me know in the comments!

I’ve also created a Facebook page that you can like, if you would like to do so! This way you can stay up to date with Organic By Nerve, and get in touch with me if you’d like to request a post, or collab!

Beginners Guide To: Dogs

Research suggests dog owners are likely to be fitter and happier than those without a pup. As if this isn’t enough to convince you that you need a tiny, loving companion, they are also adorable, loyal and soon become a valued member of your family.

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So today, I’m giving you crash course in owning a dog.

The first, most important thing to take into account before getting a pup, is to find out which one is most suited to your circumstances. You’ll need to think about how much time you can dedicate to them, and if where you live is suitable for walks, and generally raising a happy, content pup. Time also is paramount as the amount of time you invest in your dog, is directly correlated to how many tricks your dog knows, and how well behaved your dog is.

The next thing is cost. The first year is one of the most expensive, but also paramount. There’s also, the bare minimum you can spend, but you can also be more extravagant, with toys, treats etc.

Be prepared for mess. A lot of mess. This mostly applies to puppies, as they like to test to see if everything is edible, and also sometimes they play interior decorator and just feel you don’t need your current carpet, skirting boards or curtains.


But once you’ve trained and spoiled your pup, the rewards really are endless. So now I’m going to stop listing requirements and considerations and just show you how amazing and fulfilling they are to have in your family. Big or small, loud or timid, our puppy posse shows you how real angels look.

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They really are members of the family once you get one. I urge everyone to have a dog at some point in your lifetime, if you can realistically care for one. Unfortunately, not everyone can, but even more unfortunately, people make commitments to these guys, with no intention of keeping them. So today I’m sharing with you a link that by answering a daily question, right or wrong, Freekibble donates 10 pieces of kibble to Animal Shelters to help feed their hungry dogs. Add it to your bookmarks, and just by answering their daily question, you’re helping out dogs that really need it.


also s/o to the dude that assisted me today, an excellent photographer.

The Truth Behind Being A Journalism Student

As some of you guys might know, I’m currently studying Journalism at University. As I said in my personal statement, I never really knew exactly what I wanted to be when I grew up, and I never had a particular plan, such as most of my friends did. So when it came to making this huge decision in my life, I felt quite overwhelmed. Going to University always seemed like the most obvious (and sometimes only) choice I had. So when the time came that I had to narrow down my choices, I always knew that I like working with people, as opposed to always working alone, so it had to be a course where I’d be interacting with others and not just studying on my own, and then I realised, I never felt more relaxed, or like I was doing something that was really meant for me, than when I was presenting the Sixth Form Entertainment. Sixth Form Entertainment was a ‘show’ that sixth formers that wished to, put together. It consists of sketches and parodies of famous events from the year, starring the students and our teachers. It was then that I realised that I’d love nothing more than presenting. It didn’t matter the style of show, I just really enjoy working and with other people in a creative setting. Therefore the most natural route for me to follow was either drama, or Journalism, and due to how much I enjoy writing, directing and producing pieces just as well as the ‘performing’ aspect, Journalism became more and more appealing.

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Now when I joined University, I still felt very out of my depth. As if I was only ever visiting, and not like I belonged. Everyone seemed to have prior knowledge and experience in Journalism, and I had only just finished my academic subjects at Sixth Form. I realise now that most of my anxiety and stress stemmed from the fact that I had been living the same routine for 7 years, and this major life change, was the real cause.

With what I know now, I never would’ve imagined so much of what I’ve created and achieved coming. Naturally, I expected to be constantly writing, which I now realise might have lost it’s novelty very quickly. I never expected myself to know how to use a green screen, what the heck a tricaster even is, the fact that I’d have a conversation with my mum over a rifle mic, getting to give an entire presentation on psychics and the psychic industry, and that I’d actually get the opportunity to work with such creative and aspiring people. I absolutely adore what I’m doing now, and I couldn’t imagine my life taking any other direction. It all feels like every little detail, held things I never knew I was passionate about.

Just some of the things I’ve learnt, is that the news is now more in our hands than ever before. News can come from any source, and it’s instantaneous. You yourself could attend an event, hold up your camera phone, record footage and upload it to YouTube (with a good connection) with a brief write-up, within 10 minutes! It’s no longer a weekly newspaper, it’s a tweet. We don’t rely on the news at 6, it’s now produced as a 24 hour, live coverage.

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Everyone I know has told me that they can see a big change in who I am, and the best part is, I didn’t even know how much I’d love spending time, doing all of these things that I’m learning, in my personal life too.


So my advice to anybody who is currently going through the stress of exams, or if you still don’t know what you’d like to pursue, is to stay true to yourself. Don’t do anything for anyone but YOU. And keep your passions in mind! As I said, I never expected to be doing what I’m doing, but I also know no other path would feel so right. Don’t abandon your dreams just because you need to choose a subject quickly, and you already take the subjects for it. University is NOT the only option you have, and there are endless sites that can give you advice as well as your teachers. Everyone has their own story to tell, their own path to forge. You do not have to follow in any one else’s footsteps.


More importantly, here are some cheesy quotes that will hopefully really help you to break away from the idea that you have to do what everyone else is doing, and hopefully inspire you to be different.


“Every day create your history
Every path you take you’re leaving your legacy”

“Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road”


My personal inspiration comes from Derren Brown (audience gasps, shocked, perhaps some faint?). As he has said before, it might not feel like it right now, but when you’re older, it’s always the popular, pretty girls, and popular athletic guys, who go on to have the most boring jobs, because they never had to forge their own identity when they were younger.

(I’ve transcribed Derren’s speech below because unfortunately Channel 4 have had it removed from YouTube)

“If you are a bit of a Dickbrain, or you’re just made to feel like one every day when you go in, can I just promise you that all of those really ‘cool kids’, the sporty cool guys, and the skinny pretty girls, all grow up to have the most boring adult lives and jobs, because they never had to forge their own path when they were younger, they never had to find their own way when they were little. And if you are having to do that now, it is tough, but I promise you, you grow up to have the most brilliant and creative adult life. Yeah, whoever heard of a musician or an artist who just fit in, really easily at school? Nobody.

So, Dickbrains unite, yes?”


Choose your idols wisely guys


Hopefully this post gave you a little bit more of an insight into who I am, and has made you more confident in the choices you have ahead of you. Let me know in the comments below if it did, and if you’d like to talk about anything, just drop me an email at corinnebygrave@gmail.com

#DearMe

Today I thought I’d share with you guys, some advice that I would give my younger self, because I know how difficult things can be sometimes, and these things that I would tell my younger self if I had the opportunity to, might help some of you guys with things you’re going through today.


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1. “You’ll stop worrying so much about what others think of you, when you realise how seldom they do.” – David Foster Wallace. We’re all so wrapped up in our own lives and battles, that we all too often forget that everyone else is wrapped up in their own. One day this will click for you and your confidence will grow.

2. Wear what makes you comfortable, and don’t care what anyone else thinks.


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3. Celebrate your music taste, don’t worry if others don’t share it.

4. Don’t fight your family so much, they’re only trying to ensure the best for you.

5. Your brother is not your arch enemy. You two can be the greatest team.


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 6. Laugh more. Laugh at everything. Waste no time being embarrassed or nervous, just go for it, you’ll be so glad you did.

7. Unfortunately some things in life are purely there for you to learn a lesson, so learn it and move on.

8. Your friends are one of the greatest things in your life; and they change you for the better.


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9. No matter how much you love chicken nuggets, or how hungry you think you are, you cannot eat 3 Happy Meals in one sitting.

10. As cliché as it is, if you don’t ask, the answer is always no.


Those are just some things I would tell my younger self, were I able to. Is there anything you wish you knew when you were younger? Let me know in the comments below!